Saturday, 3 August 2013

You Me & MS

I've mentioned my OH Gareth in previous posts but I suppose I should mention our relationship in a bit more detail. 
Gareth would be the main supporting cast member in my life dramas. 
We met in 2009 when he was a customer in hmv where I worked. We met up for coffee, more of a chat than a date.  Before I met him I had considered not mentioning the MS as it wasn't definite then and it's not exactly what people look for in a partner. In the end I decided that honesty was best. He needed to know what he was getting himself into. 

So our first proper conversation was about MS. I told him that if he wanted to run a mile then I wouldn't hold it against him. There was no hesitation from him. It didn't put him off. It didn't even seem to phase him. 

From then on it was a learning curve for both of us. New symptoms were discovered together. Some I didn't see but he did. He didn't provide pity (thank god) and thankfully saw the humour in the situation that I did. 

Gareth bought me my first proper walking stick because he knew that I wouldn't want to use a little old lady stick, if I'm gonna be crippled then I want to do it in style :) he learnt to walk on the right of me incase I needed the extra support and he will help me stand up when my Bambi legs don't want to. 

I know that people feel bad for me when they hear about the MS but they don't really think of everyone else it effects. I always tell people that its worse for Gareth than me. I sometimes wish Gareth had met me before the MS when I was 'normal' but there are benefits to him only ever knowing me this way. He never had to 'mourn' the person I was like me & my family have. 

Our life together is normal for us :) we learn to adapt and we will continue to discover the 'joys' of MS together (if he doesn't kill me first) 

2 comments:

  1. Hey I have a quick question about your blog, could you email me when you have a chance? Thanks! -Cam

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  2. Yeah if you email lynnmcloughlin@live.co.uk
    Ill answer ASAP x

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